Sultry summer time stand your ground

Why does summer bring out all the crazies?  Florida had another shooting of an unarmed person.  Stand your ground.  So now if someone touches me I can kill them.  Are we so afraid of everyone?  What happened to an old fashioned fist fight, and be done with it?   Now we can start a fight and when we are losing state how afraid we are and kill someone?  If you were so afraid of the person why did you start the fight in the first place.  You just walk up to people cars and start yelling.  Why wasn’t she afraid of a big man yelling at her and her kids?  Omg repeal that law.

I used to live a mile from that area.  Sunset Point was a quiet well traveled road.  Not much excitement.  If I was living there, I would be marching too.  There are two bars on the corner and I am sure some shoving has taken place.  Shove and shoot.  If I see George Zimmerman can I shoot him, he scares me. I am scared of him and fear for my life.  Justifiable homicide.  I am standing my ground.

This law is going to have consequences.  Innocent people are going to be killed because they look a certain way and people are afraid of them.  Can I shoot my ex husband?  He beat me and I am afraid of him.  Do I bait him to yell at me and I claim he is going to kill me and shoot him?

Oh wait that doesn’t apply in domestic abuse.  You can’t shoot your batterer even if you are afraid of him.

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Guns guns and more guns.

Before everyone starts threatening to kill me, I own a gun.  My Dad owns a gun.  No one in my family shoots up schools.  But I am also not a felon, a crack head or mentally deranged.  I do think we need to make guns harder to get, but that alone will not solve the problem.

NO ONE IS TRYING TO CONFISCATE YOUR GUN!!!

I have seen more shootings than I want to see.  We are not being killed by immigrants.  We are being killed from within.  As a mental health professional since 1993, I have seen many things and I understand why it is happening in schools.

1.)  The way we parent out children.  We don’t like to tell them no,  hurt their feelings, let them fail or not make the team.  We either smother, enable or helicopter.  So when they grow up and cannot function as an independent adult, life becomes a cruel and scary place.  The children have no coping skills.

2.)  Bullying and social media.  This falls back on parenting again.  We need to monitor the use of social media and know what our kids are doing. Violence in school starts out of school and continues into school. If your kid is a little punk ass bully, find out why and get help.  Maybe you taught him or her that.  Maybe he needs attention.  Maybe he needs you to take away his phone.

3.)  Understaffed and overworked school personnel.  25 to 30 kids in a classroom is not optimal for a learning environment.  We have few guidance counselors and social workers.  Too many kids slip through the cracks. They don’t have any one to talk to and the signs are missed.  We need to arm teachers with help not guns.  That means you might need to pay more in taxes to make the school secure.

4.)  Violent games and movies.  Parents once again ignore the ratings and parental controls and let 8 year olds play Grand Theft Auto.  God forbid the child not get what they want.  They see death and destruction, but the player comes back to life. Not real life people.  Guns can actually kill people forever.

5.)  Easy access to drugs and guns.  Many recent shootings the child accessed the parents gun.  Really you leave a loaded gun on the kitchen table while we cook dinner.  Buy a holster or at least lock it up to eat dinner.  Is ISIS going to run in while you eat?

6.)  Gun safety is not required to buy a gun.  You just get one.  You need to learn things for a conceal carry, but not to own a gun. To get a license to drive a car, we have to pass a written test, a vision test, have a learners for a few months and pass a driving test. Then we have to register the car and get insurance.  Why can’t we do that with a gun?  If you show you can’t drive, too many tickets, DUI, your privledge is taken away for awhile.  Why can’t we do that with guns? Okay you are suicidal right now, maybe you shouldn’t have weapons until you feel better.

7.)  People are just more violent now and are desensitized to it.  We lack empathy and caring for others.

8.)  We are more narcissistic than we used to be. We think we are entitled to get things and have to make people pay when we don’t. People haven’t learned they aren’t the center of the universe and the world doesn’t revolve around them.

9.)  Underfunded mental health.  If more people were insured, then more people can get help.  Therapy and psychiatric medciations cost money.  I can’t pay my rent on free care. I would like to but I can’t.  Medicaid might be an entitlement but it has become a safety concern now.

10.) We are too involved in the rhetoric and don’t listen to the other side.  So we can’t compromise as country and meet in the middle.  We are too busy pointing the finger at the other side.

11.) I fail to see the civilian purpose for an AR 15.  Also magazines and bump stocks are not in the constitution. I guess I can use it, when North Korea nukes us.

12.)  Apathy.

These kids in Parkland are our future.  How dare anyone criticize them for using the 1st Amendment?  They were traumatized beyond any way we will ever know or at least I hope I never know. This is how they chose to grieve.  They will take action.  They will not idly sit by and watch the adults fail. They were told to stay in class, (they were in class and got shot)  be quiet, take CPR, called commies, and we are now bullying the victims of gun violence.  See #2. That is really pathetic.  If you don’t like what they are saying, then don’t listen.  But you don’t threaten their lives.  Go back to # 10.

My daughter lives 10 miles from Parkland Fl.  She works at an architecture firm that remodels schools.  She has been in Marjory Stoneman High School.  She could have been there working that day.  She could have been gunned down at age 27.  I could have been sitting beside her in the hospital and have some politician or reporter come by to offer thoughts and prayers.  This would have been my answer:

My thoughts are that you get off your ass and fix the problems of this country that caused this to happen.  My prayer is that someone pays my daughters medical bills and that she doesn’t die.  If she dies I have nothing to lose.  You don’t want to mess with a mother with nothing to lose.  When you have nothing to lose, you petition, you march, you do sit ins, you write editorials, you mobilize voters, and you make phone calls.  You also lose your mind.  You seek revenge and justice. My prayer would be that you wouldn’t be in my way and my thoughts would not be about your feelings. 

The Bible says out of the mouth of Babes and little children shall lead them.  Matthew 18: 2-5. Isaiah 11:6. We are so fixated on six week old fetuses that we forget that they become children at Sandy Hook, teenagers at Columbine and Parkland, parishioners in Charleston, concert goers in Vegas, and constituents in Tucson. We can’t call ourselves pro life and love objects that take a life. No Jesus did not own a weapon.  He said turn the other cheek.  We call ourselves a Christian nation and yet the phrase love one another and forgive are not quoted.

We are fixated on who Donald Trump slept with and not that he played golf days after a mass shooting.  We are fixated on salacious news and  don’t turn the news when they verbally attack children.  We are fixated on gossip and We dont condemn politicians for calling children lesbians and commies.  We don’t change the channel at commentators that make stuff up.  These kids are seeing all of this and registering to vote.  They will change the world in 10 years and I am grateful.

Now let me make sure my Glock is put away safe.

 

 

Gun crime

Not a usual day at the office.  My client comes in. ” I got shot Tuesday” and holds up his shirt to show me a big bandage on his back.  He is 18.  He was riding a bike at 8 pm with a friend.  It was a drive by.  He saw 3 guys but can’t identify them.  Too dark, too fast, he was running.  The bullet just missed his spine.  He is having some PTSD symptoms.  I had the usual talk about choices and safety.  You go where your friends go. His Medicaid has ran out.  How is he going to pay his big medical bill?  He is on probation so he didn’t have a gun to protect himself.  What good would it have done two kids shooting each other like the ok corral?

What is the answer?  Black lives Matter.  Where is Al Sharpton and Jesse when they shoot each other?  Does it only hurt when the shooter is white?  Stop the madness.  I want to get off.

I am speechless. The article below made me wonder of the sanity of some of the “normal” people

Let People Just Out of Psychiatric Hospitals Have Their Guns Says NRA

Chicago

This summer’s bloodshed from people with mental illness attacking churches, military installations, movie theaters and this week a Manhattan federal building has not stopped the NRA’s guns-for-everyone-and-anyone agenda. The NRA-backed Mental Health and Safe Communities Act would restore the “gun rights” of someone who has been hospitalized for mental illness automatically–as soon as he is discharged. Why shouldn’t someone on heavy medication considered a threat to himself and others two days ago get his lethal weapons back the minute he leaves the hospital? Currently, someone who’s been involuntarily committed to a psychiatric hospital must petition for the restoration of his “gun rights” or wait for a court or administrative body to restore them.

The NRA-backed legislation is reminiscent of H.R. 2640–The National Instant Criminal Background Check System Improvement Amendments Act which the NRA supported after the Virginia Tech massacre. Seung-Hui Cho, the Virginia Tech killer, was found “mentally ill and in need of hospitalization” by the New River Valley Community Services Board but bought legal guns and ammunition anyway.
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Like the Mental Health and Safe Communities Act, HR 2640 sounded like it would make communities safer. But on its website the NRA wrote the bill was actually “better for gun owners than current law,” because “certain types of mental health orders will no longer prohibit a person from possessing or receiving a firearm,” like adjudications that have expired or been removed and “commitments from which a person has been completely released with no further supervision required.” Also excluded, said the NRA, “are federal decisions about a person’s mental health that consist only of a medical diagnosis, without a specific finding that the person is dangerous or mentally incompetent.”

Why does the NRA promote “gun rights” for people with mental illness? For the same reason it promotes “gun rights” for convicted felons, suspected domestic abusers and people under orders of protection. The NRA does not believe in “gratuitously tak[ing] away the rights of people because when you begin taking away the rights of people that you don’t like, that’s the slippery slope,” said NRA lobbyist Marion P. Hammer. “Don’t like?”

That is why after the murder of nine Charleston church worshippers by a suspect with white supremacy attitudes and clear mental problems, the NRA website ignored the massacre in favor of telling its followers—the “largest gun grab in American history” was underway.  “The Obama social security system plans to deny 4.2 million people the Right to Keep and Bear Arms,” screamed the NRA referring to a possible White House move to deny guns to Social Security beneficiaries ruled incompetent to manage their own pension or disability payments. Why should people who cannot manage their own affairs and likely have dementia be denied guns? Persecution!

This summer was rife with bloodshed from mentally ill people who should have never been able to buys guns–but shootings at Aurora, Tucson, the Navy Yard, Santa Barbara, Fort Hood and Northern Illinois University also underscore the dangers. Is the NRA serious about this legal prorvision?

Do you work for or patronize any of these top companies? Tell them to get off the sidelines and take a stand for gun safety with these pe-written tweets and posts.

National Gun Victims Action Council (NGVAC) is a non-profit network of 14 million gun victims, survivors, the faith community and ordinary people leveraging their buying power to change America’s gun laws. NGVAC initiated the successful action that caused Starbucks to change its gun policy. NGVAC pursues novel legal strategies to reduce gun violence and encourages corporate involvement. NGVAC can be found at www.gunvictimsaction.org.

 

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Another day another shooting

Now it is in Louisiana.  Every time their is a mass shooting the discussion about gun safety and mental health begins. Yet, it never goes beyond discussion. Bobby Jindal is having a discussion. I am a firm believer in sane people having guns to protect themselves.  I have to ask suicidal patients if they have a gun.  This does affect their second amendment rights.  If they have a gun and want to kill themselves, what is more important.  Letting them use their second amendment rights to shoot themselves in the head.  Telling parents to lock up or remove the gun until their child is stable.  If they refuse, what next?  I can put them in the hospital for 72 hours, then what?  They tell the doctor.  I am fine.  I won’t kill myself.  I was just kidding.  They get out.  The gun is still there.  How can we find psychiatric history in a background check and protect someone’s medical privacy?  We know people that can buy guns get guns for people who can’t buy guns.  The well meaning friend or relative that gets it for them.  “They have to drive through a rough neighborhood.”  They have a felony record for drugs,” but they never hurt anyone.”  “I taught them how to use a gun.”   Chris Kyle was killed at a gun range where everyone was packing.  More guns didn’t make him safe.  Having him know the mental status of the man he was helping and that a gun was not good for him to have would have saved his life.  You can’t tell by looking at someone if they are mentally ill.  Some with schizophrenia or severe depression may be more evident..  Most people don’t talk about their mental illness, due to embarrassment, stigma, etc.  Every shooting someone that was close to the person mentioned a problem, a comment about “something wasn’t right.”  Yet, they didn’t have the courage to tell someone take away their take away their weapons. Their friendship meant more than our public safety.  If you suspect someone needs help and they won’t get it and they have weapons, call someone; a suicide hotline, the cops, a therapist, a pastor, their parents.  You may save their life, your life or another innocent life.  Remember that people that have alcohol problems are more likely to use a gun on themselves, have an accident with the gun or shoot someone.Take away their gun until they get help.  No excuses.!!!