The Election and it effects on kids.

My clients are from the age of 5 to 18 for kids.  They come from all ethnic backgrounds and social economic status.  One little black girl asked me why Donald Trump didn’t like her.  She is 10.  A 16 year old white kid bragged that Trump was going to win big and everyone just better like it.  A 6 year old wanted to know why he got in trouble for grabbing a girl at school because Trump says they really like it.  A girl said she didn’t trust Hillary because she wasn’t good at email, because she was old like her grandma.  My Mexican client who was born here said several people yelled at him at school and told him they were going to build a wall and throw his ass out.  All of these children get in trouble for fighting and did before the election.  My sexual trauma clients are being triggered and they believe that Trump and Clinton are perps and are scared.  Many think they are fat when they aren’t fat.  My suggestion is to not have children watch the news if they aren’t old enough to vote.  We have three weeks left.  Save the children.

My clients ask me who I am voting for and I don’t tell them.  It isn’t my job to sway political opinions.  I just tell them to vote or have their parents vote.  Many of my chients are disabled and recieve services.  They worry about losing them. They already have anxiety problems.  Some are low IQ and can’t decern the rhetoric and fact check.  One was afraid that they were going to take him to jail and knock his door down looking for Mexicans and guns.  They already have issues with the police.

I have to walk the fine line between safety, knowledge and not swaying someones vote.

My advise to someone with mental issues, if you know who you are going to vote for don’t turn on the news or look at it on the internet and mute the commercials.  Don’t watch the next debate.

I can’t wait until November 9th 2016.  Let all of this be over.

 

 

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Conventions

I watched all 4 days of both conventions and some coverage of the Liberatian party as well.  It was interesting.  People praising their party and thier chosen candidate and talking about how the other one sucked.  Finally, they discussed a few ideas and in general how we are going to do it.  There is patriotic flag waving and sosa march music.   I tried to study the rhetoric. Several things stood out- your spouse  and kids telling me how great you are is irrelevant.  I think my spouse would make a great President too. Your party is not the savior of the universe; God has not been replaced.  The other side is not the enemy, that divides us.

I did notice a few highlights.  I was very impressed with Mr. Khan talking about his son who was a Captain in the Army fighting against other muslims for a country he wasn’t born into, when people want to send all of them away because they think they all want to kill us. He died saving the lives of his Christian servicemembers.  Oh the irony.

The police officer talking about dead cops was not a time to talk about black lives matter when some of the cops were black. They were killed defending your right to protest and you can’t be quiet during a moment of silence.

Donald Trump suddenly likes gay people and picked for his vice president the most anti gay governor in the 50 states. Pence thinks religious freedom means I can refuse service to everyone who sins differently than me.  Not very Jesus like.

No one covered the protests outside.  That would have been more interesting and more real.  Kind of like political episode of cops.  Yet. all people talked about was they didn’t pray enough.  A political convention is not church.  The DNC didn’t have enough flags.   Really, any asshole can wave a flag.  Act like a patriot and do something for your country. You can’t do something for your country if you hate everyone in it.

Several things we need to shut up about seriously..  No one is taking your guns.  No one is telling you how to worship in your church house, car, lawn, etc.  We have to pay taxes to get things like roads, cops, fireman.  Welfare is not breaking the budget.  If you can pay for war, you can pay for veterans.

Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton have been buds for a long time.  Bill and Donald are two of the biggest womanizers around. Chelsea and Ivanka are friends married to Jewish bankers.  Yet. all people talked about was they didn’t pray enough.  A political convention is not church.  The DNC didn’t have enough flags.   Really, any asshole can wave a flag.  Act like a patriot and do something for your country.

Now for the slogans.  I am with her could mean Jill Stein for the Green Party. Make America great again, uh we have always been great and the hats are made in China. I like the one everyone sucks 2016.  When 3 parties are polling at 10% and 3 % in August, it is going to be a fun year.

I don’t really want to see a wall, because we have illegal immigrants from Europe, Asia, Africa, the middle east.  They all arrived on a plane with a visa and let it expire.  Cubans come by boat.   Nice sentiment, but it is not really a solution.

We need to focus on jobs, the economy and retirement.  No Jeb, I am not working until I am 70 and waiting to get my Medicare at 67.  Minimum wage is too low.  We need inclusion not division.

 

More shootings

When is it going to end?  More untreated mental illness, societal ills and anger.  Some attacks are by terrorists, disgruntled people, racists, deranged, etc. Our government does nothing. They talk about declaring war on ISIS, asking for prayers, moments of silence, vigils, constant news coverage with opinions.  hashtags # blue livematter, #all lives matter, #blacklives matter.  Politicians chiming in on what they would do if they were in power.  The NRA declares better and more guns would solve the problem.  If police lives matter, you wouldn’t give guns to civilians that have repeating rounds.  If black lives matter, you wouldn’t call to hang president obama or call black people thugs.  If all lives matter, you wouldn’t dimish the deaths with an I’ll pray for you.  No one ever said only black lives matter.  We are acutely aware that black gangs kill each other.  The difference is- if Tyrone kills Damone in the street, Tyrone is apprehended and prosecuted.  No one mentions anything disparaging about Damones past or if he smoked a joint in 2014.  If Damone is shot by a white or a cop, they dig into his past to justify it.  They run his name through the mud.  They find every excuse, mental illness, feared for their life,etc for the shooter who may or may not go to trial. Thats what it is about accountability.  If I shoot someone, even in self defense, they should at least look into it.  Anyone can say I am afraid and I thought he had a gun.  Who can challenge it?  Dead men tell no tales.  When they don’t find a gun, oh they reached in their pocket.  I thought they were going for a gun.  There hands were up, well they reached for something and then put them up.  Cops have tasers, clubs, cars, and many weapons at their disposal.  Why is the gun the first choice to solve any problem?  I don’t think all lives matter, or we wouldn’t be so quick to choose a gun to solve a problem. I want my own hashtag.  #Anne for peace.

Guns again

I haven’t posted about Orlando yet because I needed to process how I felt. My daughter was a member of the Gay Straight Alliance for Stetson University in Deland FL.  She had many gay friends that went to Orlando.

There is so much speculation as to why- was it ISIS, bigotry, hatred..

I have a gun.  I can pass a background check.  The FBI has never questioned me.  So why did he get a gun legally?  He can’t get on an airplane because of what he might do, but he can buy a gun.  I don’t see the logic in this.

I have grown up in the country where people had a lot of shot guns.  I live in a military town where people have rifles of all types.  What does a civilian need with an AK?  It could shoot thru a wall in an apartment complex and kill people several apartments down.

Our government just wants a moment of silence.  I don’t want to be silent.  I want to be loud, outraged, screaming.  Stop with the killing.  Just stop it.

The founding fathers had muskets with one round at a time when they wrote the second amendment.  Mass shootings weren’t an issue.

Why now?  Are we so depraved that we have to kill mass numbers of people?  It isn’t one race or creed anymore.

Aurora, Va tech, Tucson, Charleston, ghetto shootings, cops on people, people on cops, Sandy Hook, Orlando, Fort Hood.  When is enough enough?

Gun crime

Not a usual day at the office.  My client comes in. ” I got shot Tuesday” and holds up his shirt to show me a big bandage on his back.  He is 18.  He was riding a bike at 8 pm with a friend.  It was a drive by.  He saw 3 guys but can’t identify them.  Too dark, too fast, he was running.  The bullet just missed his spine.  He is having some PTSD symptoms.  I had the usual talk about choices and safety.  You go where your friends go. His Medicaid has ran out.  How is he going to pay his big medical bill?  He is on probation so he didn’t have a gun to protect himself.  What good would it have done two kids shooting each other like the ok corral?

What is the answer?  Black lives Matter.  Where is Al Sharpton and Jesse when they shoot each other?  Does it only hurt when the shooter is white?  Stop the madness.  I want to get off.

Super Tuesday not so super

I was watching the results of super Tuesday and kicking myself for doing it.  Everyone is claiming to be Americas choice and savior.  I noticed that my state; the state of Monroe, Jefferson, Washington, Madison, Wilson, Tyler, Taylor and Harrison picked Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton. The Presidents who railed against political parties, gave woman suffrage, formed the constitution to separate church and state.  They created the Monroe Doctrine, the declaration of independence and the bill of rights.  This is what they have chosen to represent out state.

I hate to tell Donald Trump but my Irish great great Grandfather hid on a boat to come here from Ireland to keep from starving.  He didn’t have a passport or a visa.  He was treated like crap in New York and migrated to the mountains of VA to remain and impoverished laborer his whole life. He married a local woman and had 8 children, one was my great grandfather.  He was not a rapist or a drug dealer.

I have relatives that did Loftin Walton, Great Grandpa wiggington, Robert bohon, and a bishop.  Two died leaving widows and numerous children. That war was the worst in our nation and we still suffer from it.  I look at statues for the confederate dead with mixed feelings.  They fought for a cause that was wrong with slavery, but correct in terms of states rights. They fought for Virginia.

I remember tales of my mountain relatives working along side the negro trying to survive and they all helped each other.  They didn’t need food stamps and grew their own food and shared with others.

My Father, my uncle and my husband are veterans and gun owners.  We hardly are what you would call extremists, richies, bigots.  We don’t have to take our gun to chipotle or Walmart to show how patriotic we are to others.  Their service and actions show that, not a gun.  And by the way, Obama hasn’t come for them and never will.

My Grandpa Doyle was my favorite human being on earth.  He was a lifelong union democrat.  He would argue politics with his republican sons.  I grew up in a house where woman could speak their mind.  I was college educated and it was encouraged that I do so.  I remember taking my grandma to vote and we each voted for a separate candidate.  Everyone discussed points of view and got along.   My Grandpa had black people in his house when it wasn’t cool.  He worked for the rail road and thought Jim Crow laws were stupid as he had to separate the passengers when they left WV into VA.  He loved JFK and thought his death was the greatest tragedy of his life. He worked his ass off from a small child until he was 72 years old.  Yet, he didn’t begrudge people being poor and getting help.  He helped many of his poor relatives, his church without complaint.  He sent nephews and nieces to college. He died a man with money in the bank and his funeral at the age of 93 was standing room only.

I wish I could ask him about the candidates running for president and get his take on it.  I guess he would be a Hillary supporter since he is a Democrat.  Yet I am not sure he would like a woman president.  He would not like Donald Trump because he is a Yankee.  He tended to prefer people that worked hard, not behind desks.  He didn’t like racists.  He also told me his Mother died from having too many children.  He would have thought the crap about birth control was stupid.  He lost his mother when he was 12, when she and her 9th child died together.  He attributed too many kids to poverty.  He only had two children, because he didn’t want to lose my grandma to childbirth.  They were married 59 years.  He wouldn’t have liked candidates that were divorced.  That was a moral failing to him to not keep your wife happy and not to cherish her.  He read the Bible every day for 53 years.  He would not recognize who we call Christians today. I am quite sure he would be for immigration.  His Mother was part Cherokee. He was very family oriented.  He talked about Ireland fondly, even though he never went there.  It was a part of him.

He would not like all the debates with yelling and name calling.  Men act like gentleman.  He always wore a hat and tipped it to a lady.  He could get the point across without  being an asshole.  He never had a gun that I knew of, but I also know anyone that would have crossed him.  When the blacks moved into his neighborhood, he was the last white to move out.  He didn’t see why he had to move, just because some black folks moved in.  He made friends with them.  He eventually had to move because the neighborhood became dangerous.  He missed his house and called the owners every day until he died to check  on it.

I cannot vote for any of the Republican candidate right now.  They are too extreme for me. I don’t think walls will keep anyone out of our country.  I don’t think corporations are people and they aren’t a religion.  Gay people are not the enemy and big government interventions in my bedroom are not needed. I don’t want to hear someone’s religious testimony at a political rally. I don’t care about your religion to govern me.

 

 

another shooting. This time in Roanoke.

This morning, we were reminded yet again of the importance of our work when two young journalists were shot and killed on live television in Roanoke, Virginia.

While many of the details are still unknown, our hearts go out to their families, friends, and colleagues.

Our country has a gun violence problem. And time and time again, when we petition our elected officials to act on solutions that would make us all safer from this epidemic, we are told that it’s a “tough vote” or a “complicated issue.”
Below is a passage from a former congresswoman Gabby Giffords.:
I’ve taken tough votes on difficult issues, and the truth is, this is neither tough nor complicated. The data is clear: action will save lives.

When I was shot, messages of support poured into my office. The well-wishes meant a lot to me during a difficult time. Let’s do the same for the newsroom where these two journalists worked.

Add your name and note of support to the staff at WDBJ7, and I’ll be sure they receive your messages as they navigate through their grief in the days, weeks, and months ahead.

The truth is, shootings like this happen every day. Often they take place behind closed doors in homes, schools, churches, and movie theaters. But this time, it happened live on television, and in a horrific video captured by the assailant posted online for the world to see.

All of these victims — the ones we read about, and the ones we don’t — deserve action. I’m committed to making sure that happens.

Gabby Giffords

I am very familiar with Roanoke and WDBJ.  I used to visit my Grandparents and watch the news on that channel.  Roanoke is not a big city and I always felt safe there. Once again we need to do something about our love and fascination with guns.