Conventions

I watched all 4 days of both conventions and some coverage of the Liberatian party as well.  It was interesting.  People praising their party and thier chosen candidate and talking about how the other one sucked.  Finally, they discussed a few ideas and in general how we are going to do it.  There is patriotic flag waving and sosa march music.   I tried to study the rhetoric. Several things stood out- your spouse  and kids telling me how great you are is irrelevant.  I think my spouse would make a great President too. Your party is not the savior of the universe; God has not been replaced.  The other side is not the enemy, that divides us.

I did notice a few highlights.  I was very impressed with Mr. Khan talking about his son who was a Captain in the Army fighting against other muslims for a country he wasn’t born into, when people want to send all of them away because they think they all want to kill us. He died saving the lives of his Christian servicemembers.  Oh the irony.

The police officer talking about dead cops was not a time to talk about black lives matter when some of the cops were black. They were killed defending your right to protest and you can’t be quiet during a moment of silence.

Donald Trump suddenly likes gay people and picked for his vice president the most anti gay governor in the 50 states. Pence thinks religious freedom means I can refuse service to everyone who sins differently than me.  Not very Jesus like.

No one covered the protests outside.  That would have been more interesting and more real.  Kind of like political episode of cops.  Yet. all people talked about was they didn’t pray enough.  A political convention is not church.  The DNC didn’t have enough flags.   Really, any asshole can wave a flag.  Act like a patriot and do something for your country. You can’t do something for your country if you hate everyone in it.

Several things we need to shut up about seriously..  No one is taking your guns.  No one is telling you how to worship in your church house, car, lawn, etc.  We have to pay taxes to get things like roads, cops, fireman.  Welfare is not breaking the budget.  If you can pay for war, you can pay for veterans.

Donald Trump and Hillary Clinton have been buds for a long time.  Bill and Donald are two of the biggest womanizers around. Chelsea and Ivanka are friends married to Jewish bankers.  Yet. all people talked about was they didn’t pray enough.  A political convention is not church.  The DNC didn’t have enough flags.   Really, any asshole can wave a flag.  Act like a patriot and do something for your country.

Now for the slogans.  I am with her could mean Jill Stein for the Green Party. Make America great again, uh we have always been great and the hats are made in China. I like the one everyone sucks 2016.  When 3 parties are polling at 10% and 3 % in August, it is going to be a fun year.

I don’t really want to see a wall, because we have illegal immigrants from Europe, Asia, Africa, the middle east.  They all arrived on a plane with a visa and let it expire.  Cubans come by boat.   Nice sentiment, but it is not really a solution.

We need to focus on jobs, the economy and retirement.  No Jeb, I am not working until I am 70 and waiting to get my Medicare at 67.  Minimum wage is too low.  We need inclusion not division.

 

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Religion and politics once again.

Now the issue is equal pay based on gender.  Many systems are set up that way state jobs, federal and military jobs.  But many are not.  The arguments presented lately is using religion.  The Bible according to Chris Christie is that woman are less than men and it is against his religion so he vetoes and equal pay bill.  Let me be clear.  I don’t practice the same religion as Chris Christie and do not wish his views to be placed upon me.  Thankfully I live in Va.

The Equal rights amendment lacked three states of passing and Virginia is one of them.

The reason that pay should be equal is very clear.  Me and my coworker in the same job making the same pay does not take any pay away from them.  Social security is based on income.  Women live 7 years longer than men.  So woman making less money increases the chances of senior poverty.  Women will also put less money in a 401 K because there salary will drop.

Pay by the position.  If a teacher makes this wage, then all make it regardless of gender.  Commission jobs are more fair, because they pay based on how much you sell.  In some commission fields women exceed the men in commissions.

Even in hollywood and the musica industry the salaries were less, even when the female leads movie grossed more and made more money for the studio.  A way around this is to get a percentage of the profits.  Women are not as good at negotiating salaries and are often seen as bitchy if they do.

Women are more likely to raise children alone and not get as much child support.  Women pay child care, which can whittle into the pay check, almost half if the child is under 2.

How does it offend Jesus if I am paid a fair wage for a hard days work?  If you don’t want women to work, fine, make enough to support your family one your income, but don’t discriminate on those who have to or chose to work. Don’t complain about welfare that keeps women out of the workforce.

Jesus said feed my sheep, even the ewes.  You can feed them by paying them enough to live on.

So Phyllis Schafly and Chris Christie you are wrong.  Follow the constitution for government and the religious text for your personal life.  Keep your government out of my Bible and your Bible out of my government.  Thank you.  Peace out.

Punish woman for abortion

Everyone has a view on abortion.  Most people don’t like it or don’t want to have one. Making it illegal won’t make it stop anymore than making guns illegal will keep them away from people.  How do you prevent abortion?

1.) Make birth control easily accessible and teach how to use on males and females.

2.) Make insurance pay for vasectomies and tubal ligations.

3.) Make adoption laws less cumbersome and free to anyone who wants to adopt.

4.) Do not give paternal rights to rapists, fathers who will be incarcerated and cannot see the child.

5.) Make child abandonment automatic termination of parental rights.

6.) Make is easier for foster parents to adopt.

7.)  Quit with the welfare shaming.  If people can’t afford kids, they won’t have them.  If you won’t adopt the child, and the father won’t support it, put it on welfare and shut up.

8.) Medicaid for all pregnant women so they can get prenatal care and medicaid for the baby.

9.) Pay relatives who raise the child just like a foster parent.

10.)  Make the morning after pill available without a prescription.

11.)  Make schooling free for single mothers with free child care.

12.)  Genetic testing for people before the get pregnant covered by insurance.

13.)  Get off the punishment, shaming rhetoric.  Many woman have abortions because they don’t want someone to know they got pregnant out of wedlock.

14.)  Quit with the discrimination laws.  In mississippi a woman can be fired for fornication, so her only choice to keep her job will be to abort so no one knows.

15.)  Look at your own behaviors.  Have you ever been in a situation where you didn’t want a child?  NO.  They you don’t understand.

16.) Economic hardships caused my multiple children are a reality.  Raise the pay.

17.) Childbirth is a risk.  I am diabetic due to gestational diabetes.  Women still die from complications of pregnancy and child birth.

18.)  Improve child support enforcement to a federal level to cross state lines and for people who work under the table.

19.)  Teach parenting in middle school.  Kids need to know what it is like to really raise a child.

20.)  Be part of the solution, not just some asshole holding a sign in front of a clinic screaming nasty words.

 

 

 

 

The problem with modern women

We have come along way baby.  We now work and can take care of ourselves.  Independent ladies!

This has backfired.  I have so many female clients in their 20s and early 30s that complain about the same things.  My man cheated on me.  I am supporting him.  He has a baby with another woman.  He hits me and talks to me like crap.  He lives in my house, but doesn’t help.  I don’t want to be alone and I don’t want him to leave me.  What can I do to make him change? 

Let me answer that question for you.  NOTHING!!!!

Why does he would he change?  He has a mommy to take care of him and someone to have sex with.  He isn’t married so in his mind he can come and go as he pleases.  Why do you think he chose a competent woman?  He treats his mistress better, because he doesn’t see her every day and doesn’t have to take out the trash or help.

You want this situation to change.  I have 10 steps that should solve the problem. 

10.  Charge him rent.  A man needs to feel like a man.  I don’t care if he is a starving artist or trying to find himself.  Even 100.00 can help.  I bet he finds money for art supplies, beer, cigarettes.  If he doesn’t want to pay, he doesn’t stay.

9. You are not his mama.  Do not wash his clothes.  Set up a household schedule for chores.  Do not do his.  Hire a maid and make him pay half.  If he doesn’t want to do it or pay his share, then it either doesn’t get done or he leaves.

8.  Find your own stuff to do alone and go do it.  Do not call and tell him about it.  Be interesting and independent.  You make money.  Enjoy it.

7.  Do not have his baby and get on birth control.  Already pregnant, collect child support.  Set up times for him to watch the baby.  If he can’t work, he can be day care.  Do not stay with him because he knocked you up.

6.  Realize that being alone is not a bad thing.  Get educated and employed. 

5.  Have credit in your name. Do not put his name on your stuff.  He is not your husband.  If he is your husband, have some things in your name.  Do not lower yourself to ask for money.

4. Develop a support system and use it.  When it hits the fan, you need a place to go, a person to call, someone to borrow money from and a shoulder to cry on.

3.  If he cheats, get checked and do not sleep with him until he is cleared.  If you don’t want to leave, expect him to cheat again.  Either accept that he is a cheater or leave.  He will not change without counseling.  

2. Get help for yourself.  If he won’t go, go for yourself. If he bitches about you going, go anyway.  You don’t have to tell him that you are going.

  1.  If he hits you, leave.  Call 911 and have him arrested.  Look up narcissism as a personality disorder.  He will do what you allow him to do. You aren’t the first and you won’t be the last.  He has to learn the hard way.  Their is no excuse.  Real men don’t hit women.

Liberated women unite.  Having a partner is nice, but have a partner not just someone that lays around your house screwing you figuratively and literally.  Don’t move an unemployed man in your house. Don’t cosign for him.   There are planty of good men out there.  Don’t run from them and treat them like crap.

Let aspiring artists live in a commune with other artists, musicians and poets.  Some men are fun to play with, but you don’t keep them.  If he did it to her, he will do it to you. 

If any of this makes you feel uncomfortable, call the domestic abuse hotline. 1-800-799-SAFE.